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How to find your soul mate?


There is no such thing as a soul mate. Every prospect has imperfections and yet has the potential to be your life partner. If your are serious about seeking out and finding the one you want to spend the rest of your life with there are certain things you can do that can greatly enhances your chances of success.

First, start with the mindset that "I'm not going to date casually and am going to seriously look for the one,  my life partner". Establishing this mindset from the get go immediately boost your chances to find your life partner because it narrows your focus as it cuts off all other alternatives like casually dating or sleeping around, along with all the negative effects those poor options comes with such as heartbreaks, pessimism and narcissim. 

Two, note down the most important features and criteria you are looking for in your life partner. You could be thinking of physical features, personality or status, however I recommend you make it a criteria that your life partner is the one you can be with by simply being yourself without having to put on any fronts and you are happy just simply being with this person. The other criteria I recommend you look for in your life partner is strengh in character in areas that you are weak in. My last recommendation is that you look for in your life partner shared values, beliefs and whose family you can see yourself embracing, as the truth is marrying the person means in a sense marrying the family also.

Third, when you have found someone who could be the one, seek to start off as friends. Despite what popular culture and society says about being "friend zoned"  building a friendship with the person you think is the one first is a great way to actually get to really know someone versus dating. If you date right away, fronts put up immediately to please and you have a harder time to find out who the other person really is. Wheras starting off as friends the other person will open up to who they really are more readily and you have a real opportunity to investigate, gauge and understand this person's personality, character, friends, family, interests and everything else to determine if there is a compatibility and if he/she is checking all your criteria boxes.

Next, look for signs to see if the other person shows any sort of reciprocal interest in you. If you've made the effort to show you like this person and this person does not reciprocate back any of your affection at all then abandon pursuing this person, because true love has to be both ways it cannot be one sided. You need to value yourself enough as someone being worth receiving reciprocal love especially from the person who will be your life partner.

When you are ready to ask this person on a date, you should be at a point where whether or not the person accepts or rejects you, you are at peace because you care about the other person enough to let them go. Sounds strange, but by achieving this mindset you would have reached a level of maturity that sets you up to succeed in your relationship in the long run. 

Remember, finding someone who you think is your soul mate is only half the battle, the other half is being able to stay in a relationship for a lifetime. To do that you need to continuosly work on yourself, not on them. You cannot change another person, you can only change youself. Therefore if you stay open minded and continously work on youself to improve in every area of your life, you will live a wonderful life and have become the soul mate someone has been waiting for.



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