When I was kid I loved the anime Dragon Ball Z and I wanted to be Goku. I would imitate all of Goku’s moves: the famous Kamehameha , the intense squats, the muscle flexing, and the yelling. I genuinely believed that if I tried hard enough—if I believed strongly enough—I could become a Super Saiyan. But no matter how loud I shouted or how intensely I believed, I couldn’t become Goku. It didn’t matter how much I wanted it. It's impossible to become a fictional character. That childhood experience taught me something powerful that I’ve carried into adulthood: desire does not determine identity. Which leads me to point #1, you are not your feelings and thoughts . Feelings and thoughts are fleeting, they come during one season of our lives and they go away in another season. They never stick around forever. They trick us in believing we are, or can be people that we clearly can't become based on all innate and external evidence. Feelings, desire and thoughts don’t equate to reality....